At some point in our lives we must be awakened to what is real. Guess that's happening right now. I've made stupid mistakes. I know I'm not the only one, but it seems as if I have the most to learn. So here I am, waiting to get spat in the face, punched in the stomach, kicked to the ground and whatever else it takes for me to be molded into a better person. I have hurt a lot of people I love because I haven't been able to recognize what my words and actions actually do to them. I've always prided myself on how witty I am and how fast I can make people laugh, but that's wrong. Why? Because I never stopped to see what after effect it had.
I can sit and make excuses if I wanted to, but that never does anyone any good. I tried to defend myself, but what's the point? I did what I did and someone got hurt. I am embarrassed. So embarrassed because I didn't even know. And I hate so much that I don't even know what she means when she says that I've done this and that. I don't remember doing any of it. Not once. I get accused of not being able to listen to what she is saying, but the truth is, I am in shock. I can't believe she felt like that. I had not clue. Not one. But I've been down this road before. With someone else... who told me the same thing. So I have to believe it. It's reoccurring, which means I need to change.
I don't know how I am going to change, or what I am going to change, but I am done being that person. I don't know how I am suppose to know what to change, but I guess that's where God comes in. Who am I going to be when the change is complete? Is it ever complete? Or is it an ongoing process till we come to an end?
Whatever it is, I would like to be someone that doesn't hurt everyone that I love. I want to be someone that people want to be around. I don't want to have to try to make people like me and want to spend time with me. I want to be that someone automatically without effort.
I am in a huge hole of self hate. So, when I am done with this phase... I'll move onto the next one. But I don't know what that is, or when it is. So let me stay here for a while... and don't ask.