Romantics

         I don't care how old you are, women want romance.  I want romance. I would DIE for romance.  Jesus died for romance. Ever thought of that??  I'll blog about that one later...

         But anyway, I remember when my friend Karis and I watched Pride and Prejudice.  Throughout the entire movie the room was filled with sighs of wonder, wistfulness, and awe.

         If I could pick ANY time period to be romanced in, it would be that one.  Nowadays romance is dirtied.  People go on a million dates and no one is the wiser... Where is the pursuance?   It seems like men these days don't want to take the time or effort to really pursue a girl.  They don't want to take the time and fall in love. It's all about instant gratification. And that makes me so sad...  God created love to be slow burning. That doesn't mean that it would be cold, because something burning is still hot.  It's suppose to develop over time and experience. Newlyweds don't know ANYTHING about love. (That's what my mom said) I think courtship is one of the best ways to learn about each other, know how you feel, and maybe even fall in love.  The way we do things now, we have zero time to do that.  Men and women, girls and boys, when they are 'dating' they spend almost every waking moment together and that gives you no room to think by yourself and find out how you really feel. 

       The beginning of this past school year I met a guy and I tripped over myself every time I was with him or saw him look at me or smile at me.  Then I found out he liked me and it seemed to be the greatest thing I had ever experienced up to that point in my life.  I set my sights completely on this guy because for some reason, I had convinced myself that he was The One, that he was too perfect not to be.  Everything was going great, not quite what I had imagined my amazing romance to go, but still really great.  Then I started reading the book Crazy Love.  If you go to this link, you can read my post about how this book really struck my heart. 

http://wustew.blogspot.com/2012/11/a-love-letter.html

         Anyway, I read that book, and it woke me up like nothing ever had before.  I saw that what I thought was the greatest thing ever, was really nothing at all except a pathetic excuse for a friendship, let alone a romance or dreamy courtship.  It was hard to run from the guy and the relationship there (or lack thereof), but I knew it was right because it was not truly fulfilling, it was not honoring God, and it wasn't anywhere near what I knew I deserved.

     Here's the good part...  Once I got out of that blinding situation, I finally refocused my vision on the One that is most important.  I found my love again for God, and because of that, I opened up myself to more people and friendships, particularly the friendship of an amazing guy named John. And let's just say... he turned out to be quite the romantic one himself ;)